“[Lauryn rapping] Now we see the horizon. It’s clear to me now. Used to be confused. Took a lot of years to see how. Now, we moving planets. Take the average mind and expand it. You take for granted like we’re always gonna be disadvantaged… [Cee-lo singing] Tell me, how long has it been. Is everything, everything alright my friend… How long, how long will we wait, to sit down and communicate… See, everything is relative. If you want to get then give. Can’t we all just build and live? Can’t we, can’t we? Do you like the way that it’s going down?” Santana featuring Lauryn Hill and Cee-Lo, “Do You Like the Way”, Supernatural. 1999.

ORDER. Happy Wednesday Daily Dosers! Last night I was watching Hawthorne in its third season (yay to Jada Pinkett-Smith!). Hawthorne is a TNT show about an aggressive nurse that sacrifices her life to help her patients. What a relief to see someone on television fighting to help other people because reality TV is straight ego-trippin’. Anyway, Jada plays a character named Christina who works with another nurse with whom she is in constant conflict played by Vanessa Bell-Calloway. I don’t understand why the two Black women on the show can’t get along. Don’t we get enough of this on say…Basketball (Not Really) Wives?  What’s up with that?! Why don’t they respect the B-Code. Click here to find out more on the B-Code.

The B-Code is another name for The Bitch Code. Don’t get all up in arms my saditty sisters who are reading this because I used the “b-word”.  It’s not that serious.  What IS serious is women looking out for women. Men have The G-Code or Guy Code, meaning they protect each other at all costs simply because they are men. For the most part, they don’t rat out each other. They don’t share each other’s information. In fact, they will act like they don’t know what’s up when they really do. So why don’t women protect one another like this? Perhaps one reason is because there is a level of dysfunction on TV telling and teaching us to compete with one another. What is up with the promotion of hatred between women? There is “Gossip Girl”, “America’s Next Top Model”, “The Bachelor”, and “The Housewives of Anywhere and Everywhere”. And it’s not even racial as much as it is gendered. The promotion of competition and hatred of women. “It’s not funny anymore, try different jokes” (pardon the Kanye reference).

The DDR: I had a friend ask me one day out of the clear blue sky “Who is such and such baby daddy?” “Huh?” I asked. “Who’s YOUR baby mama?” I responded.  I feel like if he wants to know he needs to ask her.  It’s not my place to tell him that information.  But it is my place to look out for another woman when the opportunity presents itself. Women need to look out for women and teach younger women the same ethic because at the rate we are going, not respecting the B-Code will ultimately affect generations to come. Wait.  How ‘bout generations of young women are already being affected. My friend who is a principal told me he breaks up more fights between young ladies than young men. And that the fights are generally over boys, who has vs who has not, and because “she looked at me funny”. Huh? The harm that is being done now, will take years to undo. So ladies, do me a favor and respect each other, trust each other, communicate, get to know your sister, support her. Respect the B-Code. Our lives depend on it. Or do you like the way it’s goin’ down?